Become who you really are.
Who are you, really?
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We wear many faces to exist in the world. Our competent self, for work. Our supportive self, for our partners. OurĀ just-go-with-itĀ self, for our family. Our exhausted self, for ourselves.
Authenticity is in all these selves. But, as we change for others, it's easy to slip steadily out of alignment with life. We become less kind, less generous, less certain. The less connected we are with ourselves, the less we canĀ be thereĀ for others.
Authentic Relating practice is grounding for our souls. It's a relational meditation that allows us to come back into contact with what we really value and want. Through simple games and exercises, we practice self-expression, curiosity, and empathy, without the exhaustion ofĀ needing to "get it right".
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Authentic Living Subscription
Subscribe to live your most Authentic life. This access pass includes the Authentic Relating Games Video Manual, the 4 Authentic Communication Essentials courses, and all our introductory content.
$25.00 USD every month
The Authentic Relating Games Manual
Playful exercises for awareness & connection. The Games Manual contains over 200 authentic relating games and variations that can help you lead groups with grace.
$25.00 USD
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+ Access to a privateĀ Online CommunityĀ ofĀ Authentic Revolutionaries ā¤ļøāš„
+ WeeklyĀ Fight Labs
+ FreeĀ Webinars
+ TheĀ Fight Lab Playbook
+ TheĀ Connection Games Mini-Manual
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Find a Community
There are dozens of Authentic Relating communities all over the world, where you can connect with folks in person for Games Nights, special events, and more.
UseĀ our map toĀ find your local Authentic Relating community.
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Online Classes
We humans are wired for connection. But often we donāt know how to create it.
Your friendships, your partnerships, even your relationships with your family could be so much richer. More fulfilling. More inspiring.
The ALC offers you field-tested tools and practices that have helped thousands of people navigate social anxiety, gain more confidence, learn to set boundaries, and master essential emotional intelligence skills.
You can learn all these skills with us online in just 7 weeks.
The Authentic Life Course will help you:
- Find your voice
- Set boundaries
- Make requests
- Learn how others perceive you
- Talk to strangers
- Talk to friends
- Talk to your family
...and beginĀ creating the fulfilling connections you desire.
Upcoming Cohorts
Spring 2025 US/EU
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- Sundays April 6th - May 25thĀ 12-2 PM CT / 7-9 PM CET
Spring 2025 AS/US
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- Wednesdays April 9th - May 21st 12-2 PM
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- Thursdays April 10th - May 22nd 9-11 AM AET
Self-Paced Courses
How to Find Your Authentic Self
What would happen if you were to show up in your life as the realest you possible? Get these lessons, videos, and downloadable resources to realize your authentic self. The possibilities are endless.
$47.00 USD
Deepening Conversations
Deep and connective conversations make our lives richer and more satisfying, but the skills required to get there take some practice. Dig into this tools-focused course and start finding greater fulfillment in conversations with close friends and strangers alike.
$77.00 USD
The Art of Making Requests
Your friendships, your dating life, your career, your relationship with your family, all of it will flourish when you can skillfully ask for what you want and need. And, getting a ānoā doesnāt have to feel so crushing when you understand how to stay in connection.
$57.00 USD
Navigating Challenging Relationships
Good boundaries can be the difference between shutting down and staying in when conversations get tough. Learn how to connect with those who arenāt so skilled at connection, how to stay centered when you experience a trigger, and how to practice top-notch self-care.
$67.00 USD
Authentic Communication Essentials Bundle
Get all 4 courses (How to Find Your Authentic Self, Deepening Conversations, The Art of Making Requests, and Navigating Challenging Relationships) for one low price!
$147.00 USD
Authentic Life Course (Self-Paced)
Connection isnāt something you find ā itās something you create. The ALC (Self-Paced Video Edition) gives you the tools to build confidence, set boundaries, and deepen relationships ā all on your own time. Learn at your pace. Live more authentically.
$300.00 USD
DownloadsĀ to Read
AR Games for Deeper Dating
Games to play with your date, your partner, your lover, or your ball-and-chain.
Free
Authentic Relating Aftercare
What are the core principles of AR, or the aftercare you need to integrate your experience? We've got it right here ā a guide on integration and deeper exploration into authenticity everyday.
Free
Relationship Survival Guide
Includes 7+ pages of great questions and games for your relationship, such as "The Google Game", "Empathy", "Touching Desire", and "If you really knew me, you would know..."
$10.00 USD
Onwards to Utopia: How to Create Intentional Living Communities
This eBook takes you on a journey across the country and across systems of thought, looking for the answers to how lasting, fulfilling community can be built.
$18.00 USD
The Art of Getting Someoneās World
We often think that we can only see from our own point of view. Practices like Circling make it possible to intuitively GET what someone else's world is like ā and to be transformed by that knowledge.
$12.00 USD
Articles & Inspiration
The Path to (Mostly) Effortless Connection
by Sara Ness
Last night, I was at a party that I really didnāt want to go to.
It wasnāt because the people were boring. No - they were fascinating. The venue was beautiful. The food was good.
I was just feeling antisocial, awkward, and tired. I didnāt want to be seen by anyone, let alone fascinating people who...
4 Tips for Keeping Your Friends
by Sara Ness
Tip 1: Choose Your Commitments
Letās imagine a math problem.
Jenny has two close friends, and Jeremy has five. Jenny wants to deepen her friendship with Jeremy, but Jeremy has commitments every night that he wants to be social. How long will Jenny and Jeremyās connection last?
The answer is...
What is Authenticity?
by Sara Ness
What does it mean to be authentic? Is authenticity total honesty in all your words and actions? Is it following your impulses, your emotions, or your beliefs? Is it integrity? Truth? Is it a popular word that writers use to get more hits on Google?
Iāve spent the past seven years teaching authentic connection. Iāve worked with thousands of students across multiple countries, and one constant issue participants run into is...Ā
